While it may be tempting to believe that people only pay the most attention to the “big” things we say or do, in reality, it is the little things that shape our character and help others determine who we are. The kind of image we present to the world is often determined by our actions, comments, attitude, behavior and even appearance. These little things are often observed within the first few seconds of meeting someone, as well as when the unplanned event happens in our lives.
18 simple little things you can measure that can have a huge impact.
1. Dress the part. The appearance of our clothes, hair, shoes, etc., can make a difference in the way we are perceived . Consider those you will be meeting with on any given day, and make an effort to demonstrate that you value the time you have with them.
2. Be on time. Being late gives others the opportunity to judge you without you even being there. If you say you’re going to be somewhere at a certain time, then be there at that time or communicate in a timely manner. (This is an area that I need improvement).
3. Keep your word. Down the road, if you don’t follow through, the comfort that person felt turns into discouragement, frustration and even anger. If you can’t keep a promise, don’t make it. If you do make a promise, do everything you can to keep it.
4. Respect others. This includes all people regardless of the level of relationship that you have with them, as especially requires a concerted effort for those who have differing opinions or actions. If you look for attributes you respect in people, you will find them.
5. Say, “Please,” and, “Thank you”. Small words. Lots of mileage. Expressing your gratitude to people for each act of kindness you receive, however big or small, shows that you see the good in people.
6. Smile often. Smiles are contagious and often will remind others that there are things to be grateful for and that life is good.
7. Be faithful to your partner. By being honest and true with your partner, you are showing that you know where your priorities are. You understand what it means to be in a healthy relationship. This holds true for relationships and business.
8. Speak clearly and make eye contact. Affirm the person you’re talking try letting them know you value the conversation and are engaged in the discussion.
9. Use humor. Used appropriately, humor can lighten the mood and bring people down from a tense state.
10. Greet people with a handshake or hug. Use the appropriate greeting to employ a warm and welcoming environment.
11. Be authentically You. Know what you want out of life and do everything you can to achieve it. Enthusiastically encourage that for others.
12. Listen to others. Actively listen to what others are saying and resist the urge to craft your response while they are still talking.
13. Perform acts of kindness. Open doors for others, get a neighbor’s mail while they are away, bring dinner to someone who is sick or just had a baby.
14. Be organized. Schedule your day and know where you keep items at home, work, and in your car, etc. Life is less complicated when you aren’t constantly missing appointments or searching for needed items.
15. Compliment people. Genuinely look for the good in others and make the time to let them know you noticed.
16. Be positive and focus on the good. Look for a solution instead of focusing on the problem.
17. Move past hurts. Choose to let go of things people may say or do whether purposefully or accidentally. Confront in kindness when necessary. It is much more freeing than reacting in anger or becoming resentful.
18. Own up to your mistakes. When you make a mistake, admit it, own up to it, do what you can to fix it and move on.