Being easily offended or defensive when someone has a different opinion that does not support our views is a negative response that hinders emotional maturity.
Allowing respectful diverse view points into our thinking helps us grow and gain insight from different perspectives. Limiting ourselves to ideas only from people who agree with us can inhibit or destroy significant relationships.
Assuming that we are being rejected if others do not perform as we desire or show support in our endeavors results in unhealthy thought processes.
If we work to communicate with one another with kindness, patience, and understanding, we can cultivate ways to operate in love and empathy, opening opportunities for growth and strong relationships that impact us personally, spiritually and professionally.
Might it be possible that God intended diversity to mature and teach us how to love in a way that transforms us as well as others?
I believe it is worth pondering…
How Would You Describe the Speed in which YOU Do Life? Life balance isn’t about having it all or how many plates you can juggle, but more about relinquishing what doesn’t work for you so that you can be rightly aligned and fully intentional with what does.
Resisting the Hindrance of Resistance…Growth requires becoming an expert at navigating inevitable life change by learning to accept what you cannot change and eliminating excuses for not changing the things you can. Reflecting on where you and how you are impacted by things outside of your control is an excellent exercise for some super new habits!
You Are What’s Eating You… How much sleep are you losing, or how many ways are you indulging yourself over unresolved issues, relationships or projects? The more baggage we carry, the sooner we show signs of aging. So travel light to find the fountain of youth.
Live Free… Give of your resources generously. The level of your ability to freely give is directly proportionate to how ‘free’ you truly are. We can’t do everything, but we can do something. Avoid the temptation to clutter your life or schedule with unnecessary weight. To the one who has much, much will be required.
Live Out Your Passion… Find ways to do what you love and share it with others. Express love as often as you are able. Do all that you do as if God were your employer.
Be intentional… All work and no play dulls our senses to the beauty all around us in the people love and the things we enjoy. Learn to adjust your speed of life to take time to smell the roses, experience the beauty of a sunset or the warm hug of a dear friend. The day may come, that you will be very glad that you made the effort!
I often find that asking people questions about what they are doing or how they decided to do a certain task or project is a great way to offer encouragement and acceptance. I am now convinced that people need encouragement much more than they need instruction.
Asking a question and then giving someone the latitude to share their thoughts on it offers acceptance of the differences we have from others. Listening, without mentally focusing on how we are going to tell them to do it a better way, can bond us together in deeper ways. Active listening offers people the respect and courtesy to share their hearts and ideas without feeling corrected or as if they are in need of “fixing”.
I’ve heard it said that if you give someone 15 minutes to speak, they will tell you everything that is important to them. How much more value can we bring to our relationships if we offer the gift of listening to people (especially those who are important to us), and then using what we learn to offer encouragement in their endeavors?
Think about it. People often point out the mistakes, flaws and errors they see in others or in situations. How often do you hear someone comment on how enjoyable something they experienced proved to be? It’s refreshing, but rare.
Take every opportunity to develop the strength of character that is found in truly listening. People will be drawn to you as well and will be more likely to offer encouragement when you open your heart to share the things you value.